A few years ago, I sat with a group of women talking about self-love. Not the Instagram-caption kind. The real kind — the kind that actually changes how you move through your day. And somewhere in that conversation, one sentence came out of my mouth that I haven't stopped using since: If I loved myself, I would… I didn't plan to say it. It just landed. And every woman in that room got quiet for a second, because we all knew exactly what it meant to not ask that question — to